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204 Inspiring Quotes by Dale Carnegie

  • Last updated Jul 26 2021

Welcome to our collection of quotes by Dale Carnegie.

Wikipedia Summary for Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie (spelled Carnagey until c. 1922; November 24, 1888 – November 1, 1955) was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), a bestseller that remains popular today. He also wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948), Lincoln the Unknown (1932), and several other books.

One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behavior by changing one's behavior towards them.

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Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed.

--Dale Carnegie

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In order to make friends you must first be friendly.

--Dale Carnegie

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It isn't work that makes you tired, it's your mental attitude.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you have worries, there is no better way to eliminate them than by walking them off. Just take them out for a walk. They may take wings and fly away!

--Dale Carnegie

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You never achieve success unless you like what you are doing.

--Dale Carnegie


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Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all.

--Dale Carnegie

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Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

--Dale Carnegie

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When fate hands you lemons, make lemonade.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

When fate hands you a lemon, make lemonade.


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Patience and perserverance will accomplish more in this world than a brilliant dash. Remember that when something goes wrong.

--Dale Carnegie

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Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, don't sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.




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Flattery is counterfeit, and like counterfeit money, it will eventually get you into trouble if you pass it to someone else.

--Dale Carnegie

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I can look back at my own life and see where a few words of praise have sharply changed my entire future. Can't you say the same thing about your life?

--Dale Carnegie

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Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction.

--Dale Carnegie

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If we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts, we will be miserable.

--Dale Carnegie


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We are gods in the chrysalis.

--Dale Carnegie




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Only the prepared speaker deserves to be confident.

--Dale Carnegie


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Monotony reveals our limitations.

--Dale Carnegie

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Try leaving a trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips. You will be surprised how they will set small flames of friendship that will be rose beacons on your next visit.

--Dale Carnegie

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By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.

--Dale Carnegie

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Tell me what gives a man or woman their greatest pleasure and I'll tell you their philosophy of life.

--Dale Carnegie

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Practice, practice, practice in speaking before an audience will tend to remove all fear of audiences, just as practice in swimming will lead to confidence and facility in the water. You must learn to speak by speaking.

--Dale Carnegie

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Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see bird that had the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.

--Dale Carnegie

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Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.

--Dale Carnegie

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The best argument is that which seems merely an explanation.

--Dale Carnegie

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If only the people who worry about their liabilities would think about the riches they do possess, they would stop worrying.

--Dale Carnegie


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All the king's horses and all the king's men can't put the past together again. So let's remember: Don't try to saw sawdust.

--Dale Carnegie

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Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.

--Dale Carnegie

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Let's fight for our happiness by following a daily program of cheerful and constructive thinking.

--Dale Carnegie

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Do the very best you can.

--Dale Carnegie

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The ability to speak well is the shortcut to distinction.

--Dale Carnegie

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There is no such thing as constructive criticism.

--Dale Carnegie



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Our hate is not hurting them at all, but our hate is turning our days and night into a hellish turmoil.

--Dale Carnegie


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For better or worse, you must play your own little instrument in the orchestra of life.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you can't sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It's the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.

--Dale Carnegie

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Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.

--Dale Carnegie

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You'll never achieve real success unless you like what you're doing.

--Dale Carnegie


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Each party should gain from the negotiation.

--Dale Carnegie

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Let us praise even the slightest improvement. That inspires the other person to keep on improving.

--Dale Carnegie

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Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.

--Dale Carnegie

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To be interesting, be interested.

--Dale Carnegie

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An effective speaker knows that the success or failure of his talk is not for him to decide -- it will be decided in the minds and hearts of his hearers.

--Dale Carnegie

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Don't be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.

--Dale Carnegie

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The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

--Dale Carnegie

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Face the thing that seems overwhelming and you will be surprised how your fear will melt away.

--Dale Carnegie


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Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

Begin with praise and honest appreciation. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. Make the fault easy to correct. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.


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Doing business in the digital age is predicated on doing the business of humanity well.

--Dale Carnegie


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Pay less attention to what men say. Just watch what they do.

--Dale Carnegie


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We all have possibilities we don't know about. We can do things we don't even dream we can do.

--Dale Carnegie

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The difference between a grave and a rut are the dimensions.

--Dale Carnegie

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Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.

--Dale Carnegie

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Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.

--Dale Carnegie

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Seventy per cent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they got rid of their fears and worries.

--Dale Carnegie


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Naturalness is the easiest thing in the world to acquire, if you will forget yourself-forget about the impression you are trying to make.

--Dale Carnegie

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Life truly is a boomerang. What you give, you get.

--Dale Carnegie

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Knowledge isn't power until it is applied.

--Dale Carnegie


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An old man was asked what had robbed him of joy in his life. His reply was, "Things that never happened.

--Dale Carnegie

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Almost all the progress ever made in human thought has been made by the Doubting Thomas's, the questioners, the challengers, the show-me crowd.

--Dale Carnegie

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The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way.

--Dale Carnegie

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Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession.

--Dale Carnegie

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Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success.

--Dale Carnegie

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Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, 'I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.'

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, 'I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.' That is why dogs make such a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their skins. So, naturally, we are glad to see them.



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Every day I pray. I yield myself to God and the tensions and anxieties go out of me and peace and power come in.

--Dale Carnegie

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Let the other person save face.

--Dale Carnegie

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Arouse in the other person an eager want.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

Arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.




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Believe that you will succeed, and you will.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

--Dale Carnegie

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Make the other person feel important -- and do it sincerely.

--Dale Carnegie


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There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors. It not only clears up the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.


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I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument-- and that is to avoid it. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes.

--Dale Carnegie

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Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means.

--Dale Carnegie

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When the friendly jailer gave Socrates the poison cup to drink, the jailer said: "Try to bear lightly what needs must be." Socrates did. He faced death with a calmness and resignation that touched the hem of divinity.

--Dale Carnegie

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One reason why birds and horses are happy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.

--Dale Carnegie


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Life is bigger than processes and overflows and dwarfs them.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive.

--Dale Carnegie

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There's magic, positive magic, in such phrases as: "I may be wrong. I frequently am. Let's examine the facts.

--Dale Carnegie

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There are always three speeches, for every one you actually gave. The one you practiced, the one you gave, and the one you wish you gave.

--Dale Carnegie

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The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.

--Dale Carnegie


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So the only way on earth to influence the other fellow is to talk about what he wants and show him how to get it.

--Dale Carnegie


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Take charge of your attitude.
Don't let someone else choose it for you.

--Dale Carnegie

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When the fierce, burning winds blow over our lives-and we cannot prevent them-let us, too, accept the inevitable. And then get busy and pick up the pieces.

--Dale Carnegie




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Throw yourself into some work you believe in with all you heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.

--Dale Carnegie


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It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

--Dale Carnegie


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Names are the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

--Dale Carnegie

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Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.

--Dale Carnegie

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Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gusto.

--Dale Carnegie


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The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus. And I put them in a book.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus. And I put them in a book. If you don't like their rules, whose would you use?


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I deal with the obvious. I present, reiterate, and glorify the obvious -- because the obvious is what people need to be told.

--Dale Carnegie

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So, to prevent fatigue and worry, the first rule is: Rest often. Rest before you get tired.

--Dale Carnegie

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Stop and look out the window and see how beautiful the world is. It is there - enjoy it. Go out tonight and look up at the stars. They are the wonders of nature.

--Dale Carnegie

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Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

--Dale Carnegie

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Nobody is more persuasive than a good listener.

--Dale Carnegie

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Unjust criticism is usually disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealously and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead log.

--Dale Carnegie

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Learning is an active process. We learn by doing.. Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind.

--Dale Carnegie

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So if you aspire to be a good conversationali st, be an attentive listener.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

So if you aspire to be a good conversationali st, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.


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Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.


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Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation.

--Dale Carnegie

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People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.

--Dale Carnegie

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Don't Criticize, Condemn, Or Complain.

--Dale Carnegie

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People are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves -- morning, noon and after dinner.

--Dale Carnegie

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Fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.

--Dale Carnegie

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Nobody kicks a dead dog.

--Dale Carnegie

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Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.

--Dale Carnegie

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Criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home.

--Dale Carnegie

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Fear not those who argue but those who dodge.

--Dale Carnegie

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This is the only chance you will ever have on earth with this exciting adventure called life. So why not plan it, and try to live it as richly, as happily as possible?

--Dale Carnegie

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All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory.

--Dale Carnegie

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People aren't interested in you. They're interested in themselves.

--Dale Carnegie

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The best things in life are yours, if you can appreciate yourself.

--Dale Carnegie

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Self-expression is the dominant necessity of human nature.

--Dale Carnegie

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Make a man laugh a good hearty laugh, and you've paved the way for friendship. When a man laughs with you, he, to some extent, likes you.

--Dale Carnegie

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Applause is a receipt, not a bill.

--Dale Carnegie

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You can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don't want to be.

--Dale Carnegie

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History has repeatedly been changed by people who had the desire and the ability to transfer their convictions and emotions to their listeners.

--Dale Carnegie

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An hour of planning can save you 10 hours of doing.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you have some idea you believe in, don't listen to the croaking chorus. Listen only to what your own inner voice tells you.

--Dale Carnegie

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There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts as he does. Ferret out that reason -- and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality. Try honestly to put yourself in his place.

--Dale Carnegie


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You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind.

--Dale Carnegie

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Do the thing you fear, and continue to do so. This is the quickest and surest way of all victory over fear.

--Dale Carnegie

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Our thoughts make us what we are.

--Dale Carnegie


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Create accomplishment from disappointments. Demoralization and disappointment are two of the surest going stones to achievement.

--Dale Carnegie


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Much of the best work of the world has been done against seeming impossibilities.

--Dale Carnegie

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Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

--Dale Carnegie

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Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely upon what you think.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely upon what you think. So start each day by thinking of all the things you have to be thankful for. Your future will depend very largely on the thoughts you think today. So think thoughts of hope and confidence and love and success.


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Success in dealing with people depends on sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint.

--Dale Carnegie

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Dealing with people is probably the biggest problem you face, especially if you are in business. Yes, and that is also true if you are a housewife, architect or engineer.

--Dale Carnegie

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People say I'm cocky, but am I supposed to sit here and be insecure and not know where my future's going or not realize that moviemaking is the greatest thing to happen to me?

--Dale Carnegie




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Take stock of your fears now and see how many of them are senseless. If you are honest with yourself you will probably find most of them are groundless.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will.

--Dale Carnegie



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You can get ahead in the world. But you will have to work, you will have to want tremendously to accomplish something, and then be willing to pay the price. Are you willing?

--Dale Carnegie

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Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.

--Dale Carnegie

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Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

--Dale Carnegie

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Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

--Dale Carnegie

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There is only one way... to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.

--Dale Carnegie

Longer Version:

There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything. Did you ever stop to think of that? Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other person want to do it.




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The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.

--Dale Carnegie


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Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding.

--Dale Carnegie


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When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.

--Dale Carnegie

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When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health and our happiness. Our enemies would dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us, lacerating us, and getting even with us! Our hate is not hurting them at al, but our hate is turning our days and nights into a hellish turmoil.



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The world is filled with interesting things to do. Don't lead a dull life in such a thrilling world.

--Dale Carnegie

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If half a century of living has taught me anything at all, it has taught me that nothing can bring you peace but yourself.

--Dale Carnegie

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Always have something to say. The man who has something to say and who is known never to speak unless he has, is sure to be listened to.

--Dale Carnegie

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If you want to be enthusiastic,
act enthusiastic.

--Dale Carnegie

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Every minister, lecturer and public speaker know the discouragement of pouring himself of herself out to an audience and not receiving a single ripple of appreciative comment.

--Dale Carnegie

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Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.

--Dale Carnegie



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Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little."

--Dale Carnegie

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A barber lathers a man before he shaves him.

--Dale Carnegie


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Today is the only time we can possibly live.

--Dale Carnegie




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Become genuinely interested in other people.

--Dale Carnegie

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When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary." If there is some point you haven't thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention.

--Dale Carnegie

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Good leaders are scarce; so I'm following myself.

--Dale Carnegie


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There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.

--Dale Carnegie


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Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.

--Dale Carnegie

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If some people are so hungry for a feeling of importance that they actually go insane to get it, imagine what miracle you and I can achieve by giving people honest appreciation this side of insanity.

--Dale Carnegie

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